L.O.V.E?
By Swayam Nath
“What is done out of love always takes place beyond good and evil."
Love is a very complex feeling and a voluptuous one. It twists and turns and hardens and sits encrusted on a very fragile lining maintained by a smooth abstract filamentoid bond by two individuals of any sex which if disturbed begets entropy. Verily, it is a mechanical definition, quite lifeless and dusty. Verily, the concept of love is impalpable flowing like a stream which has flowed in the hearts of lovers struck by the Cupid’s arrow; in the hearts and minds of the poets, artists and musicians.
The concept of what love is has changed over time and is quite subjective. In my opinion, love should be more open. Open in the sense that one should not hold the other down with firm and chained commitments but rather be more inclined towards levitating in the pools of new experiences. My view of love is quite parallel to the Bohemian idea of love which, though quite unconventional, delves on bringing the original and the genuine self of the lovers and automates rumination and thirst for inspiration between them. John Donne in his poem ‘A Lecture upon the Shadow’ showcases love in its most pragmatic forms, as something not constant and associated the course of love to the course of the day, which in a way contradicts the romantic notion of love which is very firm and unflickering, or in a way the Shakespearean view of love which forms the theme for his many sonnets even more promiscuously in Sonnet 116 wherein he tries to explain the constancy in love, a vast unfathomable concept, in terms of negatives, that is, he tries to explain what love is not. For instance he says, “Love is not love which alters when alteration finds” or “It (Love) is a star to every wandering bark” and so forth. Love in any form should create a comfortable space for the lovers and should preserve individual privacy and independence of the lovers.
Like the course of a day, even the light of love fades away, wherein distances create an abysmal void which like two filaments cannot be smoothly conflated into one for there always stays behind a wreathed knot. Even when we narrow down the reason for why we feel the way we feel, the feeling of adoration, it comes down to something insipid as Hormones like oxytocin. It maybe because when our brain is accustomed to one person, even more when it is accustomed to the way we feel for that person, it secretes low quantity of oxytocin, which of course is the effect of external factors- Lack of intercourse, lack of mutual understanding, insecurity, and so forth. So it is natural to ‘Fall out of love’.
Though I have proposed my views and reasons of love, in the end I believe, that each relation that blooms out affection is quite subjective and like a plant, this relationship ought to be nurtured and watered by the lovers with their own arrangements.
